Golden Rules For Parents
Your kid’s success or lack of success in sports does not indicate what kind of parent you are… But having an athlete that is coachable, respectful, a great teammate, mentally tough, resilient and who tries their best is a direct reflection of your parenting.
- Make sure that your child knows that win or lose you love them, appreciate them, and are not disappointed in them. This will allow them to do their best, and to avoid developing fear of failure based on the specter of disapproval and family disappointment if they mess up. Be the person in their life they can look to for constant positive reinforcement.
- Try your best to be completely honest about your child’s athletic capability, competitive attitude, sportsmanship, and actual skill level.
- Be helpful, but don’t “coach” your child just before, during, and just after a contest. It is tough not to, but it is a lot tougher for the child to be inundated with advice, pep talks, and often critical instruction.
- Teach your children to enjoy the thrill of competition, to be “out there trying”, and to be work to improve their skills and attitudes. Don’t say, “winning doesn’t count”, because it does. Instead, help them develop the feel for competing, for trying hard, and for having fun.
- Most everyone enjoyed high school. Try not to relive your athletic life through your child in a way that creates pressure. As parents we remember our wins and losses along the way. We were frightened, backed off at times, and were not always heroic. Don’t pressure them because of your pride. Sure, they are an extension of you, but let them make their own voyage of discovery into the world of sports. Help to calm the waters when it gets stormy, but let them handle their own navigational problems. Find out what your children are all about, and don’t assume they feel the same way that you felt, want the same things, or have the same attitude. Allow them to need you on their terms – don’t help them to death. Athletic children need their parents, so please do not withdraw. Just remember there is a thinking, feeling, sensitive, free spirit in that uniform who needs a lot of understanding, especially when his/her world turns bad. If they are comfortable with you – win or lose – they are on the way to maximum achievement and enjoyment! Remember to think of your child as a child, not as “my child the athlete!” If you do, the morale of the family will improve.
- As an Urbana High School athletic family, you represent your child, his or her team, and also OUR community.
- Remember that HAWK PRIDE represents a family that supports one another. Thank you for your interest and the opportunity to work with your children. Show good Urbana sportsmanship and have fun! Expect good sportsmanship, win or lose. Remain loyal to your teammates and school. Inspire others to be their best. Treat visiting teams as honored guests. Aim for high goals academically and athletically. Give respect to coaches and officials. Every day is an opportunity to be a role model.